Slow Parenting Benefits You and Your Child
Helle speaking from Down Under. After traveling Australia and New Zealand for 2 months I am finally heading home for at while before further traveling late autumn this year.
It has been 2 wonderful and busy months. I have visited many Waldorff Kindergartens and Play Groups as a consultant, and I have seen the daily life and felt the caring rhythm that the Kindergarten Caretakers create for the little children. And I’ve had the pleasure of doing many workshops for parents and childcare professionals on some of the most profound and central keys to what I call Slow Parenting. More on this in a bit.
Childhood can’t be re-transmitted
In this travel note #2 I want to share something very central to both parents and pros.
We know that choosing to have enough time with your children and also making conscious choices about i.e. media usages, family values, bedtime, nutrition and so on can feel like an uphill struggle in a fast paced world. And both Anna and I are grateful to have you with us on the heart opening journey of parenthood. So thank you for being here and for reading along!
Slow Parenting means creating time to let the child grow in its own pace, and granting it a safe and loving environment that allows it to thrive and grow. So the question now is: how do we provide this enviroment?
30 years of in depth experience tells me that the 5 keys below are truly what the little child needs, and is something you can use as a checklist for your childs wellbeing.
5 keys To Slow Parenting
1. Sleep. The importance of sleep can not be underestimated. It has a deep impact on our physical and psychological health. Little children need 12 hours of sleep until the age of 7-9 years.
2. Movement. Children need to use their bodies and practice their physical will power. Let them crawl, run, jump, roll, grab, throw, catch. And let them peacefully practice gettting dressed, setting the table, getting up after falling, cutting vegetables, sweeping the floor and so on.
3. The Meal. Healthy, wholesome nutrition goes without saying. But what about family time? Prioritizing making dinner together and eating together without allowing disturbances can be the most bonding time during the day. This is where we all come together, and it allows us to feel the mood of the family on a daily basis. Let the phone ring- they will leave a message if it’s important.
4. Rhythm. Children love repititions. And there’s a reason to that. They learn by sensing, experiencing and rehearsing everything again and again. Notice how much your children just adore the rituals around your family celebrations. Repeating small rituals during dinner time or when tucking your child in, shows the child what is going to happen which often settles its mind. Also heartfelt rituals allow the child to sink into feelings of safety, love, warmth and joy.
5. Care. Luckily, unconditioned love comes naturally for most parents. Yet one specific advice for today is: try practicing Deep Rolemodeling. Your child feels you and copies you. Not only your actions, but also your attitude to life, your sentiments, and your ability to be present. Next time you peel potatotes or folds the pile of laundry: try to be present and lay aside all worries for a moment. Try turning off radio/tv. Take it slow. Enjoy it. See what happens. Your mood can positively impact the whole atmosphere. Maybe your child will just play nearby you, or maybe it will even feel like helping out. It can likely feel the space to breathe, just be, and grow into life.
Thanks for reading all the way!
As you read this, my new book on 5 Keys To Slow Parenting is being translated to english after being written in Danish.
We can’t wait to present it on our site – and we will let you know when you can purchase it. Hopefully you will enjoy it as much as we have enjoyed creating it.
Please ask any question on todays subejct or share a story of your own.
Warmly, Helle and Anna