Involving Children in Everyday Life.
We wish you all a year full of new possibilities and awareness of the little things that matters.
This is just a short travel note to give you a notion of some of our activitites in Slow Parenting- as well as a little inspirational thought to you about involving children in everyday routines.
The picture above is taken on a bus station in Pucon, Chile, as I am about to move on. Thus, I am currently on a work trip to Argentina, Chile and Ecuador, and I will be home in Denmark in the end of February. As you know, I often travel around the globe; I teach on the principles and practices of Slow Parenting, and on how to let little children thrive and grow in their own, unique pace.
On my travel around Chile, I have worked together with my likeminded colleague Louise de Forest, who is also a global Child Care Consultant. Together, we have made a 3 year commitment to teach on seminars in Santiago and in the south of Pucon. It has been fantastic to meet our dear colleagues from Chile, coming from the far North to the far South, all working for the benefit of childhood.
Being caretakers and mothers, there are so many questions about the little things that matter so much. And sometimes making a simple change can make a huge difference in our daily life:For example, deciding once and for all to involve our children in the daily and necessary routines in our homes (and in the Kindergartens) – those routines that never go away, and have to be done anyway!
I have experienced so many times, that all of a sudden, care takers and parents discover the real and full potential in this practice. First and foremost, they discover how much stress is relieved from their minds, because they don’t have to ‘split themselves in two’ so much anymore. They can be with the children, and not feel guilty about the piles of laundry not being done, and they can still do the meaningful and necessary work- and some even begin to enjoy it on a much deeper and much more satisfying level.
Additionally, the deep and to some surprising benefit is this:
When you involve your child in practical work, and thereby let the child contribute, it feels deeply connected to the task and to you, and it builds up the child’s vital self-esteem. It feels, that it matters, that it is important to others, and this is what lays the entire grounds for feeling worthy.
So, just by being present, and at the same time giving a 2 year old a warm cloth and let it imitate your cleaning- motions, a five year old the kitchen knife, and allow it to cut carrots side by side with you, handing a wet plate to a 7 year old with a smile, and expect him to wipe it dry – you actually help him/her build up self esteem and feel worthy of appreciation and love.
Perhaps you could try to involve your small child in one new thing today? – And experience for yourself how it made you and your child feel.
On my travels, there has also been a lot of talk about setting sound and loving limits. How do we set the right limit without becoming to controlling? Next time you hear from us will be about exactly that delicate and important topic- so look out for our newsletter!
Until then, take good and loving care of yourself and the children in your life.
– and Anna on the side 🙂