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About Rabbits, Silence and Becoming Present

Greetings  Blog Reader!

I am presently spending focused time working on our online course about children’s sleeping patterns, and how to create sound sleeping routines. I feel that this work is very important, as I know of so many families who wish to get some basic and solid advice on how to tackle this delicate and vital area of our children’s lives.

However, today’s newsletter is about something else: it is about how we can allow ourselves to become more present. This is something we as adults often find so extremely difficult – and at the same time, it is something children master so effortlessly, especially when they are very young.

You have probably experienced to get eye contact with an infant other than your own, and get the most enthusiastic and enamored smile from it. You probably agree, that the joy and thrill in the eyes and entire face of an infant is heart opening!

I think, that what we see in the eyes of the infant is the true bliss of being present, right here and right now, with no reservations. Infants are born with the great, yet vulnerable gift of constantly being in the now, as they are yet not lost in regrets from the past or worries or plans concerning the future.

I have tried different exercises myself, trying to practice to be more present; when I am alone, but also when I am together with parents and children.

The Rabbit and the Silence

Today, I wish to share a recent experience from my own life: I was on a public playground with my grandchild. We saw a cage with a rabbit in it; we went to see it, and I sat besides the cage. I just sat there, watching the rabbit, and my grandchild approached the cage even more. Soon, another child joined us, enjoying our very silent approach. Then another child came; and then another – and suddenly, we were 10 children and one adult just sharing the moment of silently watching the rabbit. Together, we were enjoying this quiet, yet charged moment, solely focusing on the rabbit moving around in its cage, and enjoying the rare silence.

I didn’t talk, I didn’t lecture, I didn’t try to fill the children’s minds with my words about how sweet the rabbit was, or anything else..
After maybe 10 minutes, other adults came to the cage as well. They probably didn’t see what was going on, because they just talked and talked, and we kind of lost the silence. The children left again, but they all came to pad my shoulder before they went. We had shared a special moment together, and I think we all felt grateful.

Slowing Down & Becoming Present

If you feel like it, you can practice being present right now:
If you are sitting down or can find a seat for 2-5 minutes, then find a good position to sit in.
Close your eyes. Let go of your all of your thoughts. (Don’t worry, they will come back!)
Breathe in deep and slowly without forcing your breath. Then exhale, softly and fully. Continue doing this 10 times; make sure you don’t rush it.
Feel how you can mentally slow more and more down. You don’t have to fix anything right now.
Just be.
Stay with your breath, close your eyes if you want to, or maintain a soft gaze. Now come back again, and notice if there is a change in your body and mind.
Do you feel more present? More alive? More at peace with your worries?
Were you able to really just slow down, and what did this do to you?
My guess is, that if you get into the habit of taking 5 minutes like this a couple of times daily, you will be able to feel a change in your attitude in what comes towards you – in all the little moments that bind life together.
With love,
Helle- and Anna on the side 🙂

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    Naomi

    Such a beautiful story and powerful message. Thank you!

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